Busy Dads – Build A Quality Relationship With Your Kids In Just Five Minutes A Night

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  1. KJ says:

    This is a great article, even for busy moms. It is important to take time and just talk with kids. They have so much to say and their little personalities just shine through.

    Thanks for the tip and I am going to make an effort to add it to our daily routine.

  2. Eric says:

    I’m happy you got something from this post. Maybe I should change the heading to include busy moms.

  3. James says:

    Hello. How are the babies? How are you? We haven’t heard from you for a while. Please write.

  4. HowToMe says:

    one caution… My Mom used to lay down with my youngest sibling. That sibling is in college now and I can’t think of a time (since that child’s youth) when someone hasn’t been called to come over for a sleepover. I think the conditioning that my Mom started has made it difficult for that sibling to sleep in a room alone.

    If your kids are immune to that, then enjoy the warm fuzzies. Sounds like a special quiet moment for your family.

  5. Eric says:

    James,

    The babies are fine and are now 6 months old. Thanks for inquiring. I would love to write more articles but the babies and kids and many other things going on now are making it kinda of difficult to get articles out. It takes me far too long to write a simple post.

  6. Eric says:

    HowTome,

    Very good point! I wouldnt suggest doing this five minute relationship building thing with a child under five years old, otherwise exactly as you mentioned will happen. In fact, I dont do this with my three year old. He wouldnt let me leave and he would start demanding it every night. I should update the post and include your comment for people to note. Thanks for pointing that out.

  7. HL says:

    I have to agree with you. This is a wonderful idea. I used to do it, and I miss it. They got attached to grandma, so now they just want to lie with her. At first I felt freedom. Now I miss it.

  8. Morgan Stoddard says:

    I think it’s great if dads get involved with taking their children to sleep. But that 5 mins (or is it 2 mins. by the end of the articel) can in no way whatsoever be construed as constituting a quality relationship with your kids. Come on! I don’t care how busy a dad is — you don’t get off the hook by doing five minutes a day. Kids aren’t stomach crunches.

  9. Eric says:

    Believe me, 5 minutes is a good start for busy dads. Many kids dont even get two minutes of personal one on one time with their fathers.

    And, I didnt say that the five minutes constitutes a quality relationship. It builds upon itself and adds up significantly. If an extremely busy dad were to do this consistently for many years it would make a world of difference in the life of his kids.

    Let me ask you, how many dads who do spend time with their kids on a daily basis actually spend one-on-one personal time with them? The five minutes of personal quality time makes a huge difference even if you arent a busy dad.

  10. Les says:

    Let’s face it, in middle income plus families, life as the primary cargiver has changed for good. Even if dad isn’t the primary, we are kidding ourselves if you think dad’s aren’t spending huge amounts of time with their kids. Male instinct takes over even before their child is
    born. Don’t let anyone tell you that only mothers have the parental instinct with their kids. Dad’s have it every bit as much as mom’s it’s just that society(mainly women) would like that fact shoved under the rug. I know this first hand as a full time stay at home dad and primary caregiver from my daughters birth. Prejudice and prejudice alone is keeping dad’s from their rightfull reputation as loving, nuturing, caregivers for their children and children in general.

  11. Les says:

    Let’s face it, in middle income plus families, life as the primary cargiver has changed for good. Even if dad isn’t the primary, we are kidding ourselves if you think dad’s aren’t spending huge amounts of time with their kids. Male instinct takes over even before their child is
    born. Don’t let anyone tell you that only mothers have the parental instinct with their kids. Dad’s have it every bit as much as mom’s it’s just that society(mainly women) would like that fact shoved under the rug. I know this first hand as a full time stay at home dad and primary caregiver from my daughters birth. Prejudice and prejudice alone is keeping dad’s from their rightful reputation as loving, nurturing, caregivers for their children and children in general.

  12. D Smith says:

    Love this post. Very insightful tip. No kids yet, but if we ever do have any, I will definitely keep this in mind and eagerly await the day my child is old enough to be able to do this. Thanks Eric!

  13. TB says:

    Our son was adopted as a teenager and was emotionally disturbed from having been abused. He couldn’t get himself to go to sleep at night and would toss and turn with bad dreams / bad memories. At first he was afraid to have me lay down beside him but then he welcomed it. Now he’s 27 and he sleeps just fine. It really helped him to heal and to learn to trust me. I’m mom by the way, not dad, but sometimes both of us have lain down with him either at night or on a Saturday morning and talked, laughed and roughhoused. It has helped create the close bond we have today.

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