Teach Your Kids to Negotiate with You Instead of Arguing

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  1. Super Saver says:

    Our 2 (soon to be 3) year old seems to have learned the art of negotiating on her own. If we say no, she will ask for just a little bit, expecting that we will give in :-)

    Here via CoFL

  2. Eric says:

    You also cant really expect a 3 year old to be able to really negotiate. I would think a child would have to be at least 5 yrs to negotiate properly.

  3. DerekP says:

    My 5 year old daughter has been at this for I think a year now. She gets frustrated sometimes when it doesn’t work – some things just aren’t negotiable. She’s even started trying the extreme request to make the real request look like the middle ground – “I’m not going to bed tonight!” “Yes you are.” “Ok, 11 o’clock”. Her normal bed time is 8:30. It’s slightly flexible in the summer, but not THAT flexible.

    I know people say talk things over with your kids, but she learned that (and a lot more) through observation, and it is my firm belief that you do what you want your kids to do. I negotiate, both with her and her mom, so she’s learned to as well.

  4. Kim Patrick says:

    Your children will learn to negotiate as early as you teach them. It depends upon the child and if they really want something bad enough.
    Of course you should start teaching your child to negotiate at a young age.

  5. Melanie says:

    My daughter is just over 2 years and we’ve been negotiating with her to help with the constant “no’s”. She doesn’t completely get it but I can see her beginning to understand the concept and most importantly it’s making her feel more empowered so it’s helping with the tantrums (which are now almost non-existent!).

    For example, when she’s in the bathtub and I want her to come out and she doesn’t, I say “how much longer do you want to be in the tub for? 10 minutes?” “Uh no. 2 minutes mommy” and I say “ok” with a grin. She’s happy because she feels in control and I’m happy because she doesn’t yet understand the concept of time! 😉

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