Don’t Ever Assume Your Kids Wont Open the Door for Strangers – A Personal Account of a Frightening Experience


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8 Responses

  1. joanne says:

    Oh my! your kids must have been frightened. Oh I feel so terrible for them. And your nanny. thank goodness nothing happened.

    I think I am going to have a talk with my son about this. He is only three and he can barely reach the door knob but you never know.

  2. Eric says:

    Hi Joanne and welcome.

    Yes you’re right. You never know. And who knows in six months he may be able to reach it by standing on his toes.

  3. William Mohn says:

    This was very informative. Thanks for the tips & info. My question is why in any way would you willingly associate with a psycho who has no problem with violating your home. I would have called the police and at least gotten a restraining order. Giving money to this sicko will only ensure that you will see more of this man. Egad. Cut off the dead wood.

  4. Eric says:

    “why in any way would you willingly associate with a psycho”

    First, he’s not a psycho nor is he a sicko. Second, It would be too diffucult to explain why I and many other people continue to help him out. We help out a lot of people. I just need to be more cautious for the future.

  5. Christine says:

    Perhaps you might consider installing a chain on your door so that it can be openned without giving access to the person outside?
    Telling children to not interact with strangers is useless. They move people from stranger to known too quickly – had Stan stood outside and explained he was in regualr contact with you they almost certainly would have invited him in after a 3 minute conversation thinking he was a friend of the family. Asking the kids to consult the nanny (where was she anyway letting the kids answer the door?) or calling you before going with or letting people in is more useful.

  6. Eric says:

    The chain is not a bad idea. This way the kids cant open the door all the way.

    You are right about calling us or the nanny when there’s a knock at the door and this is what they usually do. They just thought it was us at the door.

    As for the nanny, she was in the kitchen with the baby. The kids ran to the door when they heard the knock and opened it right away. She was three steps behind them.

  7. Kit says:

    Here’s the thing.
    I agree it’s good to help others, and you’re modeling good habits for your kids by helping – there was no reason to expect what happened.

    But you need a new nanny, or perhaps she needs better training, because while I agree that your kids should know not to open the door, there was an ADULT right behind them!

    They should have been able to trust that adult to handle the situation, and she did not – she put your kids at risk.

    She did not need to cautiously ask him to come back later and then dither while watching him firghten your kids.

    She needed to briskly tell him to leave, and if he did not, she needed to take your children OUT of the home, and to the nearest neighbor/phone for the police to be called.

    Your possessions can be replaced, your children can NOT, and regardless of your desire to help Stan, or how often the nanny may have seen him panhandling, his behavior was an immediate warning sign of potential danger.

    A nanny has a very serious responsibility – children’s lives.
    Her abilities should be the FIRST priority in need of remedial help, here.

  8. Elena says:

    Thank god my children are too young to answer the door! My twin boys are only 4 months old, so I have no worries of them answering the door. My only concern would be my 9 year old brother, who comes and stays with me and my husband on a weekend after School Out on Fridays. On three occassions he has run to the door and opened it without checking with myself or my husband. I know it doesn’t seem like much, but we were very thankful it was only our neighbour informing us that our German Shepherd Puppy had wriggled under the fence (He was sulking in his kennel because he had been told off for chewing one of the babies toys) into his garden, the first time. The other two times it was people we knew who had decided to drop a random visit to see how the twins were doing.

    But my heart caught in my throat when I thought about my brother opening the door and there being a psycho or a complete stranger being stood there, especially since on Saturdays my husband works 9am while 2/3pm, leaving me (a 21 year old woman) alone in the house with 4 month old babies and a 9 year old autistic boy.

    I agree with Kit, your Nanny had a responsibility to take care of your children, and by letting Stan roam through your house she was exposing your children to possible danger. Thankfully this wasn’t the case, but she should have thought to keep the children away from Stan and told him to leave. Thank goodness your children were unharmed!

    Thanks to this article, I’m taking extra precautions on our door. I’m going out tomorrow while my husband is at work and I’ll be getting some deadbolts for the front and back door and a security chain for both doors.

    Again as Kit said, possessions can be replaced. My laptop can be replaced easily, as can my DVD collection. But my son’s lives and my brother’s life are irreplaceable.

    Thank you for sharing this article.

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